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I love being a high school college counselor. The role is one that I feel honored to be a part of because you are an adult witnessing a young person make their first major decision regarding life beyond high school.

It is a beautiful journey to see a student evolve in the process, presses submit on their application, and ultimately get an acceptance if done smartly.

When allowed in its purest and just form, the college application process is beautiful. …

-Published as an article for Girl Gone International January 2021

A connection is “a relationship in which a person or thing is linked or associated with something else.”

At the start of the pandemic, the world connected through the shared practice of sheltering in place and keeping your distance. That if we must leave our homes or interact with others, we need to wear a mask to reduce the spread. Simple. Easy. Not that hard. However, mask life and pandemic living made me (for the first time in a long while) stay still. An idea that seems easy but is…

I have started and stopped this reflection a couple of times over the past eight weeks. The first reflection was thoughtful yet outdated in just a short amount of time. The second reflection was more serious and but wasn’t fully honest with how I really felt about my life in the time of Corona. Hopefully, the third time is the charm.

Here it goes….

I am very grateful to be a Black woman living abroad during this pandemic.

I wake up each morning with my physical body in one space and my mind thinking of home. When I moved abroad…

It’s 5 am, Wednesday morning, and I am exhausted.

I’ve been awake since about 3 am, replaying conversations from the day before, a week before, the year before. My past and present running dialogues through my head as I still contemplate God’s place for me in this world or the next.

It will forever be exhausting to be a black woman.

My black girl magic has taken its hits. I have very little glitter to spin my happiness in.

My mental and physical edges more strained with every pull and tug.

I turn to my phone and pull up my…

The worst thing in the world is to find out that you are stuck in the middle seat of a full flight for four hours.

I don’t know about you, but I get filled with dread and the what if’s:

  • What if the seat isn’t roomy enough?
  • What if the person I’m sitting next to needs a shower?
  • What if I am next to the most annoying kid/baby/person in the world?
  • What if I have to pee and the person sitting on the aisle is asleep?

Questions like that (and others that are not suitable to write out loud), were…

We prepped for months…. Actually since 10th grade.

Time and strategy with a student to craft a plan to handle all the things required in the senior year:

  • Timeline for all IB assignments? Check.
  • Testing needs for first choice school? Check.
  • Thoughts and ideas for personal statement with goal dates? Check.
  • Recommendations sorted, a smart college list created? Check.

But it seems that around every corner, rules changed or were not clear, and adjustments had to be made. Test dates and school finals running during the same week. Discrepancies at one testing site due to shortened time and mismanagement. …

“The assumption that women in hijab are less enlightened or empowered than those rocking daisy dukes is arrogant at best. Feminism should fight for all women to have he right to live as they choose, not for all women to live the same exact lives like we’re all in some sort of Sims game.”
Luvvie Ajayi, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual

In my goal to reclaim my life, and to lose 40 pounds before 40, I went ahead and joined a gym this school year. The decision did not come lightly- I wanted a place that wasn’t far…

Christina McDade

A writer, social worker, and counselor who loves a good Spotify playlist. Follow me @mscdmcdade on Twitter, Spotify, and Clubhouse.

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